our ability to change, to adapt our internal environment to external pressures is the key to our survival and quality of life
your adaptation, your ability to change is what my work is all about.
what we know about change
that most of us want to change something about ourselves.
that to change something, we have to change something
to find balance, change is an obligation.
that change begins with choice
it requires knowing what you want and not what you don’t want ‘how do i want to feel?’ vs ‘i don’t want to feel this way anymore’
it requires energy, a resourced state - this is the most important element in my opinion and is the difference between knowing what you need to do and doing it
it requires attention and repetition to make the change automatic behaviour, to wire it in
that change is possible if we do the work - neuroscience confirms this
change is hard due to established neural pathways, associated biochemistry, brain wave patterns and an unforgiving external environment.
that our inability to change, to adapt to stress, is the leading cause of unhappiness and disease, including 95% of doctors visits and 5/6 leading causes of death
that it is our internal environment, our conscious and subconscious patterns, and not the external environment, that we need to change to find balance
that change is impossible while in stress mode (imagine running from danger and trying to change a habit at the same time - the brain will not allow it)
that there are four reasons we change - with the same mechanism applying to all four
we decide by ourselves
2. friends or family encourage us
3. forced intervention
4. a life threatening situation
and my last word on change is, that for most of us,